Show #24: The six promise foundation: Nichole Goudreau

Show #24: The six promise foundation: Nichole Goudreau

 

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Nichole Goudreau is an attorney and award-winning criminal justice instructor admitted to practice in Pennsylvania.  Nichole has conducted academic research on comparative criminal justice, juror behavior, attorney performance and trial practices in the U.S. and abroad.  She currently maintains an estate planning practice with a focus on serving newly formed families, Hoskins & Associates [LINK-www.hoskinsassociates.com] and is the founder and executive director of The 6th Promise Foundation, a nonprofit that exists to protect the spirit of the 6th Amendment and provide low-income criminal defendants with access to comprehensive legal representation.

Thank you, and I am looking forward to it!

 

 

Marriage Tip:

Laugh more. It is so surprising to me on how many couples that I talked with that I found out about their challenges and the issues int heir marriage and I ask them “what was the last time you had fun and you just laugh?” Too many people come up with empty answers.

Now laughter is truly is the best medicine. Think about when you first got together, most likely if I’m talking to you and you’re listening to this, you built a foundation a piece of being laughter and fun and enjoying one another. So what are you doing to have actively have fun with one another? what do you do in doing actively have a laugh with one another? And even if you have to break up this old movies or go to a comedy club, find ways to laugh with one another it truly is a healer and more importantly I believe it is a fertilizer to a more love, passion and understanding to one another in your relationship.

Go  out! laugh with one another!

 

 

When did God “Laugh”?

Nicole had this idea of going to college, get married, have kids and having all of it when she’s 29 but she met her husband way past in her 30s.

 

Hardest Thing About Being/ being married to an Entrepreneur?

Time management.

 

Favorite Thing About Being a/Married to an Entrepreneur?

Nicole feels fortunate to have a supportive husband. He supports on whatever Nicole wants to do.

 

How Do You Separate Your Business from Marriage?

Time management, set hours focused on family and talked to husband on plans to do on weekends and weekend time with the family.

 

Favorite Book?

Google.

 

Super Powers?

A cyborg that can see through things.

 

Best advice?

Don’t quit.

 

Eulogy Life Message:

Nicole: Make a difference in somebody else’s life, the fact that I was here has a positive impact on someone else.  It is not about me, make an impact on somebody’s life.

 

Business Contact Information:

Website: 6thpromise.org

For legal services: Hoskins and Associates

Show #23: Sleepy Paws: Dave and Kim Westwood

Show #23: Sleepy Paws: Dave and Kim Westwood

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After years of working in a retail management position, Kim Westwood had the desire to stay home with their son Josh.  In 2009, Kim along with her husband Dave, founded Sleepy Paws Pet Care.  Since then, Sleepy Paws has grown to become one of the premier pet sitting companies in Chester County, PA, taking care of hundreds of four-legged friends in Downingtown, Exton and the surrounding areas.  In 2010 and 2011, Sleepy Paws was a finalist in the PHL17 Hot List contest for the Philadelphia area’s top pet sitting companies.

Sleepy Paws Pet Care has helped raise money for several area organizations including the Chester County SPCA, Chester County Bark for Life (Relay For Life), Windsor Christian Academy and Give A Hand for A Leg.  Sleepy Paws Pet Care is a member of the Chester County Pet Care Network, The Association of Pet Sitting Excellence (APSE) and Professional United Pet Sitters (PUPS).

In addition to their son Josh, Kim and Dave live in the Downingtown area with their 3 dogs (Precious, Daisy and Max) as well as several cats.

 

Marriage Tip:

Create a safe space. In all the trainings that we do whether we are mentoring with one on one or our life group training we always create 3 specific rules. On second rule we always talk about and have to really focus on creating safe space, making sure everybody in the room or everybody in the call understands that this is the space that we can talk about things without judgement, without argument, without the feeling of being blamed or being punished that we have this space that we can have a real conversation with one another that is how relationship truly grows.

If you don’t have that in your relationship, it is very important to create that, creating a space whether it be a time, a time in a day and announce “hey, we are going to be in the same space, there’s no judgement, there’s no argument, no blame, it’s just that I need to really talk and vent my feelings without you trying to fix it or deal with anything, just hear me”.  When you create that same space, you’ll create for a foundation for one another that you’ll know that you are truly each others best friend and you are truly rooting for one another. Do not forget you are both on the same team so act like it by creating a safe space for one another.

 

How they Met?

They met at a convenient store where Dave was working. Dave worked there to be closer to his girlfriend before to see her more often but the relationship did not last. So there he met Kim, where she lived just 4 doors from the convenient store Dave was working, they talk and from there their relationship blossomed.

 

When did God “Laugh”?

Kim and Dave have ups and downs on their marriage. They had created several business before and thought it would be a success but instead it did not.

 

Hardest Thing About Being/ being married to an Entrepreneur?

Dave’s hardest part of being an entrepreneur and having a corporate job is time management plus he is also a husband that needs to give time to his wife and his family.

 

Favorite Thing About Being a/Married to an Entrepreneur?

Freedom of work hours and flexibility.

 

How Do You Separate Your Business from Marriage?

Dave thinks that it’s challenge on separating business from marriage, since having a business and a corporate job, on business they get weird hour calls but they learn to work it on a way by scheduling time with family, blocking Saturday mornings schedule to have it as family time, going places and taking out family.

 

Favorite Book?

Dave: Virtual Freedom by Chris Ducker

 

Super Powers?

Dave: Having an instinct of reading someone, able to tell if I am being played.

 

Best advice?

Dave: My dad told me that whatever you do take care of each other, because you may not be able to depend on anybody from the outside world but if you take care of each other you can depend on one another.

 

Eulogy Life Message:

Be true to yourself so you can be true to others.

 

Business Contact Information:

Website: Sleepy-paws.com

Show # 21: Married with Language: Betsy and Warren Talbot

Show # 21: Married with Language: Betsy and Warren Talbot

 

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Betsy and Warren Talbot are the authors of Married with Luggage: What We Learned About Love by Traveling the World. They also co-host the popular Married with Luggage podcast, a weekly conversation with experts around the world on love, sex, and communication in today’s modern relationships. When they aren’t traveling the world, you can

find them writing their next book in a small, whitewashed village in Spain. Find out more about their relationship hacks and real-world insights at MarriedwithLuggage.com.

 

Marriage Tip:

Create a safe space. In all the trainings that we do whether we are mentoring with one on one or our life group training we always create 3 specific rules. On second rule we always talk about and have to really focus on creating safe space, making sure everybody in the room or everybody in the call understands that this is the space that we can talk about things without judgement, without argument, without the feeling of being blamed or being punished that we have this space that we can have a real conversation with one another that is how relationship truly grows.

If you don’t have that in your relationship, it is very important to create that, creating a space whether it be a time, a time in a day and announce “hey, we are going to be in the same space, there’s no judgement, there’s no argument, no blame, it’s just that I need to really talk and vent my feelings without you trying to fix it or deal with anything, just hear me”.  When you create that same space, you’ll create for a foundation for one another that you’ll know that you are truly each others best friend and you are truly rooting for one another. Do not forget you are both on the same team so act like it by creating a safe space for one another.

 

How they Met?

Warren and Betsy met in 2002 at work. Betsy did not like Warren at first but Warren work it out.

 

When did God “Laugh”?

They were at a cruise at Antarctica and experience a major storm but inspite of that scary experience they were able to change their lives by approaching the hotel manager and asked about what the cruise crew do after the tour and the hotel manager said they cruise up north and start the arctic season and Warren asked if they could come and the hotel manager said yes and their lives changed since the experience is breath taking.

 

Hardest Thing About Being/ being married to an Entrepreneur?

Betsy: We both want to be boss. Also sharing responsibility desalinating chores maybe it be for travel or work I think that is the hardest part to navigate.

Warren: Biggest challenge is we both live, travel together 24/7. Every decision must be decided by both of them of anything what is in front.

 

Favorite Thing About Being a/Married to an Entrepreneur?

Freedom, travel and flexibility.

 

How Do You Separate Your Business from Marriage?

Having a definite time off,  like vacation with no internet or completely offline. They don’t want to be totally consumed by their work or work will take over their lives but they love working.

To keep their romance alive, they talk about everything, saying little things such as sorry is already big for them and help them appreciate each other.

 

Favorite Book?

Betsy: Do the Work by Steven Pressfield

Warren: My Little Instruction Book

 

Best advice?

Betsy: From my grandmother, Take it seriously this time.

Warren: Hold hands, a simple gesture but is really appreciated.

 

Eulogy Life Message:

Warren: Lived life every single moment.

Betsy: Do whatever thing you set to do and do what you do.

 

Business Contact Information:

Website: www.marriedwithluggage.com/

Show # 20: Marriage Startup: Leslie and Laura Camacho

Show # 20: Marriage Startup: Leslie and Laura Camacho

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Leslie (11yr software CEO) and Laura Camacho have made it their mission to better the relationships of every entrepreneur, bootstrapper, and executive so that their most important partnership is a thri acving success. Join them on the Marriage Start up Podcast as they learn to love deeply and grow successfully.

 

 

 

Marriage Tip:

Be careful with your eyes. Eve rolled your eyes with your spouse? Have they ever rolled their eyes to you? Yeah, I’m sure they have. Well guess what? In by doing of rolling the eyes is a sign of contempt. Dr. John Gotman did a research where he was able to show that the number one cause with in 94% of accuracy of being  able to predict divorce is contempt. Holding your spouse in contempt, what that means is when you place yourself above the other person and the sign for that and  doing which is eye rolling.

So be careful of your eyes, be careful of your spouse’s eyes, be willing to look at where you’re holding your spouse at in tempt and change that for compassion.

 

How they Met?

Leslie’s younger brother was Laura’s good college friend. They had the same group of friends on an email listserve group and one time Leslie and Laura struck up an email conversation. Six weeks later Laura, realized she was in love with Leslie and proposed.

 

When did God “Laugh”?

Getting married to Laura. Leslie was engaged prior to Laura, it was such a painful disengagement. Everything was set, planned the wedding, bought the rings but it did not happened. And then Laura walked into his life and realized she was the perfect match for him.

Leslie also thought he would be the CEO of his former company but needed to change totally for the better so he quit.

 

Hardest Thing About Being/ being married to an Entrepreneur?

Leslie: I feel extraordinarily lucky but the biggest challenge is simply that it seems unsurmountable a lot most of the time.

Laura: Flexible schedule; but the freedom is a difficulty too, since it is hard to turn off “the job.”

 

Favorite Thing About Being a/Married to an Entrepreneur?

Flexible schedule and freedom. Togetherness.

How Do You Separate Your Business from Marriage?

Being deliberate about the family dynamic. Creating strict business hours from 9:00 – 5:00 and then being parents from that point on. Bathtime!

 

Favorite Book?

Leslie: “Growing Pains, Transition from Entrepreneurship to a Professionally Managed Firm” by Eric Flamholtz and Yvonne Randle.

Laura: “Nurture Shock” by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman

“Protecting the Gift” by Gavin de Becker

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Super Power?

Leslie: Empathy.

Laura: I make people!

 

Best advice?

Leslie: Start now, whatever it is in your marriage that needs improving, start now.

Laura: Enjoy each other. And if you’re not enjoying each other, get help to find out why.

 

Eulogy Life Message:

Laura: Find the joy in life. Do what you need to do to find joy and not stay enslaved to ideas of what you need to be, but really be yourself.

Leslie: He loved God and lived like it.

 

Business Contact Information:

Website: http://marriagestartup.com/

Show# 19: From the class room to successful online entrepreneurs: Shane and Jocelyn Sams

Show# 19: From the class room to successful online entrepreneurs: Shane and Jocelyn Sams

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Hi, we’re Shane and Jocelyn. We believe society has it wrong when it comes to work/life balance. In the Flipped Lifestyle, life always comes before work. We’ve found a way to spend more time enjoying our family and the things that truly matter most.

In 2012, on a rare day off work, Shane stumbled across a podcast about regular people changing their lives through online business. We started brainstorming about how we could do this too, and started a couple of websites just to see what happened. No one could have prepared us for what happened next.

In just a few short months, we were able to make thousands of extra dollars each month through online business. Just one year later, we surpassed the five figure mark in online sales for a single month. When our August 2013 sales surpassed $36,000, we decided it was time to stop working for someone else and start living for our family.

We made the decision to quit our full time jobs to pursue our own online business, and we’ve never looked back. Now we have more time for each other, more time to spend with our children, and we are making more money than we ever dreamed possible.  In July 2014 alone we were able to make over $140,000.  Online business has truly changed our lives, and our family’s future.

We started the Flipped Lifestyle Blog to help other families change their lives using online business.  Whether its a few hundred extra dollars a month, or replacing your income in order to quit your job; whatever your dreams are,, that is the onlyr we want to help you make them a reality!

 

 

Marriage Tip:

NDAs, None Disclosure Agreements. In our events, in our books and in our seminars, we often talk about how couples need to have NDAs None Disclosure Agreements. Sometimes it can become a bad habit to have a falling out with your spouse or have a disagreement and quickly run into Mom and Dad or sibling or best friend or best girlfriend and tell them all the dirty laundry and then you go and make up with your spouse but they don’t hear that part so you painted a negative picture in their mind of your spouse. You started to put a wedge between them and your spouse and that is never a good place to be.

Now I am not talking about abuse or any major situation here, what I’m talking about is when you just have a little argument, don’t go running to friends or family members, remember that NDA, keep that in between you and your spouse.

Another place that you should not go to is social media, it is so tempting to write out your feelings and let everybody else come as right as with you and it can be very damaging to your relationship.

Remember, the strength of your relationship is not just based on how you react upon in good times, it is how you react on  bad times too. So make sure you lean upon one another in order to get your support, that is the  best and only way to secure a strong foundation. Don’t forget your NDAs.

 

 

How they Met?

They met at University of Kentucky, particularly in the staircase. Started to get to know  by inviting each other.

 

When did God “Laugh”?

They plan to play it safe, thought to teach and happy enough, employed and retired later on then online business came and everything change. Never thought they are meant to something big.

 

Hardest Thing About Being/ being married to an Entrepreneur?

The idea of going different directions they wanted each other to go, Jocelyn can’t do things her way but do things their way. Always together and that creates communication problem. They are always together, doing things together to the point they don’t communicate anymore because they are already updated with each others happenings.

 

Favorite Thing About Being a/Married to an Entrepreneur?

The dynamic of their relationship. Jocelyn is a planner then Shane is a doer. Tobe with someone you love all the time and don’t have to deal with people they don’t want to in a day.

 

How Do You Separate Your Business from Marriage?

Make and define their work space and try not to work when their son is at home and be with the family.

 

Favorite Book?

Shane: Virtual Freedom by Chris Ducker

 

Super Power?

 

Best advice?

Shane: Choose to love you your spouse. Love is a verb not an emotion.

Jocelyn: Marriage is not going to be perfect, just keep in mind, don’t have this idea that you will have the life of sunshine and rose everyday when you are married, but if you have strategy to over come problems all will work out.

 

Eulogy Life Message:

Jocelyn: Life is too short so concentrate on what matters to you.

Shane: Life is not about you, it is about others and ultimately pointing people to Christ and faith and to eternity.

 

Business Contact Information:

Website: flippedlifestyle.com

Show #17: Building a business in Guatemala : Greg and Lucy Jensen

Show #17: Building a business in Guatemala : Greg and Lucy Jensen

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In 2011, Greg and Lucy left the corporate world and comforts of life in the United States, and moved full time with their four sons to the highlands of Guatemala. He founded Mayan Running Adventure, where he takes clients from all over the world on amazing trail runs during his week long all-inclusivie adventures. The trail runs are epic and very challenging, covering 20,000′ in elevatin gain in 50 miles, all between 5000′ and 10,000′ in elevation, during the week. After the morning runs, Greg takes clients on afternoon adventures, including a zip line tour, ecological tour, hot tubbing on Lake Atitlan, a professional massage, and guests even learn how to make corn tortillas by hand. It’s a vacation, a running camp, and a cultural experience all built into one!

Greg and Lucy also founded Mayan Eco Homestead, a non-profit organization where they work with indigenous Guatemalan families who want to improve their family’s lives by teaching them farm-to-table skills with sustainable farming, and hygiene and nutrition education, so that they can improve their health and living conditions, become self-sufficient, and raise themselves out of poverty.

 

 

Marriage Tip:

know your hierarchy. Do you let your kids or work or friends get in the way of your marriage? Unfortunately this happens a lot when it comes to children, a lot of parents think that they need to focus more on their children more than their spouse, that they need to put their children first and their spouse should be okay coming in in second because you know, it is for the kids. That is a quick road to disaster in a relationship.

Your children need to see that Mom and Dad come first, as a matter of fact I recommend sitting your children down when they are old enough to understand and I mean by 4,5 or 6 and through out the rest of their live and tell them “Hey, just so you know, I love you, I’d die for you and I’d do anything for you but your Mom or your Dad they come first in my life, you’re not dividing and conquer us”. What does this do to them? It gives them the sense of stability and understanding that Mom and Dad do really care for each other.

 

How they Met?

They met in Guatemala, both run each other in school and had common friends, they dated 11 months got married.

 

When did God “Laugh”?

Greg realized there is no perfect time and he just dove into deciding to do running and live in Guatemala. If the plan will fail, he will just come back, get a job and house.

 

Hardest Thing About Being/ being married to an Entrepreneur?

Security of everything, specially if things don’ go as what they’ve planned.

 

Favorite Thing About Being a/Married to an Entrepreneur?

Being able to travel, not being tied in a job.

 

How Do You Separate Your Business from Marriage?

Set some time, if this times are for business, then its business, if the time if for family shut the door of the office and be with the family.

 

Favorite Book?

Time For Us For A Week

 

Super Power?

 

Best advice?

Make sure you like her, are you friends with her? And do you see her as a good mother to your children? If the answer is YES to those three questions, then she is the one, you’re good and then go ahead.

 

Eulogy Life Message:

Lucy: Appreciate what you have when you have it, take it and appreciate it. Live in the moment and love the moment.

Greg: Do what you want to do now. Money is a tool not a goal.

 

Business Contact Information:

Website: www.mayanrunningadventure.com

www.mayanecohomestead.org

Show# 15: Health Dentistry Movement: Dr. Edwin Rodriguez and Dr. Patricia Blanco

Show# 15: Health Dentistry Movement: Dr. Edwin Rodriguez and Dr. Patricia Blanco

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DR. EDWIN RODRIGUEZ

Edwin Rodriguez lives in the beautiful Caribbean island of Puerto Rico. He still lives in Puerto Rico with his wife, Patricia Lugo and his daughter, Paola Victoria. He practices as a full time Prosthodontist in Mayaguez, a town near Cabo Rojo, with his wife as his partner in their office, Complete Health Dentistry.

His purpose in life is to simplify things, to show people, by inspiring them, that there is a better way. His vision is to bring the Complete Health Dentistry movement to Puerto Rico and other Spanish speaking countries, and to help improve Puerto Rico’s health care system. Edwin is a husband, father, friend, and health professional full of energy and with a passion for integrity and leadership. He is a pioneer of total health and wellness and leads by example in all mayor tracks of life. His family and team are reflections of his strive for excellence in every area his life.

 

DR. PATRICIA T. LUGO BLANCO

Dr. Patricia T. Lugo Blanco lives in Puerto Rico. She was Puerto Rico Jr. Champion at the ages of 13, 14,c16, and 17. She was part of the Puerto Rico Jr. National Golf Team from age 13 to 17. At the age of 14 and 16, Dr. Lugo was Caribbean Jr. Golf Champion. She was offered at scholarship to play at Miami University, but she did not visualize herself playing professional golf.

Dr. Lugo decided to study Biology at the University of Puerto Rico at Mayaguez Campus. On 2004, she was accepted to study dentistry and started in August at the University of Puerto Rico, “Recinto Ciencias Médicas” at Río Piedras. In 2009, Dr. Lugo bought a practice in Mayaguez, Puerto Rico and, on 2007 she married Dr. Edwin Rodriguez, with who on 2010 gave a birth to a girl named Paola Victoria, who is now four years old. At this moment, she is working at Complete Health Dentistry practice in Mayaguez, Puerto Rico. She is happily married and enjoying every second of each day that God grants her.

 

Marriage Tip:

It’s time for a tech break. You don’t have to have that phone in your hand everyday, you don’t have to answer the email, you choose to do that. So, make a choice today, give yourself a tech break or a tech fast whatever you want to call it, just take some time out everyday to say at this time, there is no going to be any electronics that is going to stop me from fully engaging with my family, with my spouse and just be completely being present, make it an hour, make it two hours or maybe you are that somebody who is so addicted to it, that is okay. Start with 10 minutes, start with 15 minutes and I promise the rewards you will get over putting down the phone or stopping checking your email will be a thousand fold compared to what you get of just answering that next text.

Tech break do it today.

 

How they Met?

They met in college, at first they are not attracted to each other, until some years later while in a bar drinking he saw her and was amazed and from then on he is on to her.

 

When did God “Laugh”?

Edwin was always prepared for dentistry practice, he made a list and planned it in detail and very excited  by the time he already is practicing dentistry he was quitting already, exactly the opposite of what he planned a year before.

 

Hardest Thing About Being/ being married to an Entrepreneur?

Never ending work thoughts regardless what time it was.

 

Favorite Thing About Being a/Married to an Entrepreneur?

Acknowledging the good side of each other, being an entrepreneur they support to each other to make them feel safe towards risk of entrepreneurship.

 

How Do You Separate Your Business from Marriage?

They have coffee time, they take time to watch movies and on weekends they do go on some quality family time.

 

Favorite Book?

Edwin: Million Dollar Dentistry

Patricia: Slide Edge

 

Super Power?

Edwin: Unstoppable man in the world

Patricia: Multitasker

 

Best advice?

Patricia: Everyday to be balance, every day you become a new person and you want to get to know that person everyday.

Edwin: Love is a verb, love her with everything.

 

Eulogy Life Message:

Edwin: be keen with relationships. Number one with God, number two with wife and children and third is the rest of the world.

Patricia: If you will do the insignificant things in the daily basis, it will take you far.

 

Business Contact Information:

Website: www.completehealthdentistrypr.com