You heart is pounding harder everyday it gets closer. You wake up in the morning with the stunning realization that it’s getting closer and you have yet to get your special lady anything. You are not 100% sure if when she said, “Hey, don’t worry about it this year” she actually meant it.
Knowing your co-workers are going to be asking you what you are planning on doing for her, your impulse is to lie, because you haven’t done anything yet, or to exaggerate so you come off looking like Romeo amongst your peers.
The cards, the candy, the restaurant, the flowers, the sitter, the sex (and the aftermath if it doesn’t go right) can amount to a lot of pressure. Sometimes you think your chances of survival might be better if you were on a soldier on D-day rather than standing at a her doorstep, or walking in your home, with a card and flowers you hurriedly picked out at the local supermarket on V-Day.
Will your relationship survive yet another let down? Is there an easier or alternative to the “normal” way people celebrate Valentines?
Don’t stress! You can survive Valentines day. In fact, you can knock her socks off just by tweaking a few of the things you are conditioned by society to do. The main request I hear from women is that they want you to communicate more- show her how you feel about her.
Demonstrate to her that you care about her enough to do more than just buying something off the shelf. The key is to customize your efforts! Here are a few quick and easy alternative Valentines day ideas on how you can make this and any day you choose, one that shows them appreciation and love.
1- Instead of buying a card, write them a letter. Even if it’s just a simple note that tells them how much they mean to you. You can include things like your memories of the first time you met, your first kiss or the first time you knew they were the one for you.
2- Instead of buying candy, make or bring home their favorite desert. If you are not a good baker, get something made by a local baker that means more than just a heart shaped box that anyone can by.
3- Instead of flowers, make a mixed tape. It’s fun and with itunes its really easy. Of course you can pick songs like, ” Every Rose Has it’s Thorns”, “Kiss from a Rose” and “The Rose”, but you might want to stay away from “You Don’t Bring Me Flowers Anymore”.
4- Instead of going out to a crowed restaurant, bring home dinner- Have a candle light dinner together, just the two of you. If you want to make it a family affair, enlist your kids to be your waiter and dining staff. They will not only love it, they will learn a great lesson from you. If you want it to become a romantic night, send the kids to grandparents, a babysitter’s home, or splurge to send them to a movie with friends.
5- Instead of buying a gift like a ring or a necklace, give the gift of touch- draw her a bath or set up a massage table and give her the gift of relaxing. (Ladies, you can also draw a bath for him and set up a massage table, I’m not discriminating here). Set up candles and soft music. Let them be 100% focused on themselves for a while. I know it’s Valentines, but make this all about them, with no agenda of your own other than letting them enjoy it.
Valentines day is a day of remembering and celebrating. Even if you are not into it, or think it’s too commercialized, or feel like its too much pressure, simple gestures from your heart can show her how much you care without the hoopla.
Hopefully you can take some of these substitute suggestions and use them throughout the year, not just on this one day in February.
What other customizations can you make to Valentines traditions so that you create a unique, romantic and special night for your lady?
Share them with us below.