4 Romantic Winter Dates to Warm You Up

I don’t know about where you are, but here in Utah, it’s pretty cold!  When it gets this cold, I tend to hibernate inside, and then get cabin fever. To combat that, a fun date night is the perfect cure for cold weather blues.

Forget the dinner and a movie routine because romance can be found in unexpected places when the weather turns chilly. With these date ideas, you can use this winter as an opportunity to snuggle up and really get to know your loved one!

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Show #26: It’s a Twin’s Business: Lily DagDag and Patricia Talavera

Show #26: It’s a Twin’s Business: Lily DagDag and Patricia Talavera

 

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Lily Dagdag and Patricia Talavera are twin sisters and business partners. Together they run Save Your Time Biz Solutions. Their goal is to encourage small business owners to focus on their zone of genius while outsourcing everything else. They use their love of technology to help small business owners create websites that will grow their business without stress and overwhelm.

 

 

Marriage Tip:

This one is for you guys, remember one way that you can help your wife feel great about your relationship is to make her feel secure. It is the number one driver for all women security, security  physically, financially, emotionally and spiritually even if she has a job, even if she is a confident woman, you need to show her security, you need to let her feel that she is secure in relationship and all those four aspects because when she doesn’t that’s when breakdown happens, when she doesn’t trust starts to diminish and that means she won’t look at you as her superman anymore. guys just listen to her, she will tell you what she needs, she will tell you where she is not feeling secure and when she does, your job is to listen to her and take action like the superman you want to be. Make her feel secure.

 

How they Met?

Patricia met her husband during elementary at school, they dated when they were in high school and they’ve been together ever since

Lily on the other hand she and her husband are childhood sweethearts.

 

When did God “Laugh”?

Lily: My husband was in military but then he got injured and expected to be with the process to take long but then in 6 months the process was done, so they have financial difficulty due to her husband out in the military and money was a little low so it was a big shock regarding with the turn of events knowing there is no steady income to rely on anymore.

Patricia: A few years ago, when I was thinking what I am going to do with my life where I decided to join the Air Force, I applied to an officers program, took exams, hired a trainer to get in shape but then I was not able to get in, that sucks. I was encouraged to take masters degree to be promoted to a higher position, so I took up my masters degree but in the middle of taking it I found out that I was pregnant. So i decided to stop my masters, I can’t proceed with my plans thinking I will be separated with my baby.

 

Hardest Thing About Being/ being married to an Entrepreneur?

Lily: The fact that I am a workaholic and a perfectionist so when you are the one in charge with your schedule you think you work less but in reality it doesn’t, its hard to set boundaries when you know you have to work hard for your family but when you are with your family you feel guilty that you are not working at that point.

Patricia:  Same here, that is actually a big thing. I spent a lot of time with Lily’s and my husband would say hey I did not see you more often here in the house and then realized that yeah I need to be more at home.

 

Favorite Thing About Being a/Married to an Entrepreneur?

Lily: Flexibility.

Patricia: It’s the target of working hard and he sees I love what I do and he is supporting us.

 

How Do You Separate Your Business from Marriage?

Lily: We do try significant dates, significant anniversaries. We attended activities for couples.

Patricia: Try spending time with my husband without my daughter just us together.

 

Favorite Book?

Lily: Lucky Bitch by Denise Thomas

Patricia: Unmarketing

 

Super Powers?

Lily: I’m not sure.

Patricia: I got nothing.

 

Best advice?

Lily: The whole  “don’t go to bed angry” I’ve always thought that it is a horrible thing to do, really the best thing to do is sleep and in the morning you forgot about it when you wake up than talk about it and try to settle it before you go to sleep it will just get worse and worse and worse.

Patricia: To read the book The Five Love Languages, it is important to give credits to what your husband’s doing.

 

Eulogy Life Message:

Lily: Nothing is important as it seems and it’s not in a negative way, no sense in living life facing future problems that may and not come.

Patricia: You can’t make everybody happy so just make yourself happy. Do whatever you want to do.

 

Business Contact Information:

Website: saveyourtimebizsolutions.com

 

Show# 15: Health Dentistry Movement: Dr. Edwin Rodriguez and Dr. Patricia Blanco

Show# 15: Health Dentistry Movement: Dr. Edwin Rodriguez and Dr. Patricia Blanco

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DR. EDWIN RODRIGUEZ

Edwin Rodriguez lives in the beautiful Caribbean island of Puerto Rico. He still lives in Puerto Rico with his wife, Patricia Lugo and his daughter, Paola Victoria. He practices as a full time Prosthodontist in Mayaguez, a town near Cabo Rojo, with his wife as his partner in their office, Complete Health Dentistry.

His purpose in life is to simplify things, to show people, by inspiring them, that there is a better way. His vision is to bring the Complete Health Dentistry movement to Puerto Rico and other Spanish speaking countries, and to help improve Puerto Rico’s health care system. Edwin is a husband, father, friend, and health professional full of energy and with a passion for integrity and leadership. He is a pioneer of total health and wellness and leads by example in all mayor tracks of life. His family and team are reflections of his strive for excellence in every area his life.

 

DR. PATRICIA T. LUGO BLANCO

Dr. Patricia T. Lugo Blanco lives in Puerto Rico. She was Puerto Rico Jr. Champion at the ages of 13, 14,c16, and 17. She was part of the Puerto Rico Jr. National Golf Team from age 13 to 17. At the age of 14 and 16, Dr. Lugo was Caribbean Jr. Golf Champion. She was offered at scholarship to play at Miami University, but she did not visualize herself playing professional golf.

Dr. Lugo decided to study Biology at the University of Puerto Rico at Mayaguez Campus. On 2004, she was accepted to study dentistry and started in August at the University of Puerto Rico, “Recinto Ciencias Médicas” at Río Piedras. In 2009, Dr. Lugo bought a practice in Mayaguez, Puerto Rico and, on 2007 she married Dr. Edwin Rodriguez, with who on 2010 gave a birth to a girl named Paola Victoria, who is now four years old. At this moment, she is working at Complete Health Dentistry practice in Mayaguez, Puerto Rico. She is happily married and enjoying every second of each day that God grants her.

 

Marriage Tip:

It’s time for a tech break. You don’t have to have that phone in your hand everyday, you don’t have to answer the email, you choose to do that. So, make a choice today, give yourself a tech break or a tech fast whatever you want to call it, just take some time out everyday to say at this time, there is no going to be any electronics that is going to stop me from fully engaging with my family, with my spouse and just be completely being present, make it an hour, make it two hours or maybe you are that somebody who is so addicted to it, that is okay. Start with 10 minutes, start with 15 minutes and I promise the rewards you will get over putting down the phone or stopping checking your email will be a thousand fold compared to what you get of just answering that next text.

Tech break do it today.

 

How they Met?

They met in college, at first they are not attracted to each other, until some years later while in a bar drinking he saw her and was amazed and from then on he is on to her.

 

When did God “Laugh”?

Edwin was always prepared for dentistry practice, he made a list and planned it in detail and very excited  by the time he already is practicing dentistry he was quitting already, exactly the opposite of what he planned a year before.

 

Hardest Thing About Being/ being married to an Entrepreneur?

Never ending work thoughts regardless what time it was.

 

Favorite Thing About Being a/Married to an Entrepreneur?

Acknowledging the good side of each other, being an entrepreneur they support to each other to make them feel safe towards risk of entrepreneurship.

 

How Do You Separate Your Business from Marriage?

They have coffee time, they take time to watch movies and on weekends they do go on some quality family time.

 

Favorite Book?

Edwin: Million Dollar Dentistry

Patricia: Slide Edge

 

Super Power?

Edwin: Unstoppable man in the world

Patricia: Multitasker

 

Best advice?

Patricia: Everyday to be balance, every day you become a new person and you want to get to know that person everyday.

Edwin: Love is a verb, love her with everything.

 

Eulogy Life Message:

Edwin: be keen with relationships. Number one with God, number two with wife and children and third is the rest of the world.

Patricia: If you will do the insignificant things in the daily basis, it will take you far.

 

Business Contact Information:

Website: www.completehealthdentistrypr.com

Building a relationship of trust in 5 easy steps.

Don’t over complicate things. You don’t have to learn the in’s an outs of NLP. No need to be a master of body language.trust If you want to build a relationship of trust, especially with your spouse or your kids, just follow these 5 simple steps.

1. Let them know you care about what they have to say. – They can tell if you are actually listening or if you are just waiting for your turn to speak. If they feel that you actually want to hear their opinion, then they will be more open.

2. Don’t get distracted. Cell phones, televisions and other people can be huge distractions. The moment you glance down at the phone because you heard a ding, you’ve lost them. However, if the phone dings and you don’t even flinch, they will know that your conversation with them is more important than a text from someone else.

3. Ask questions: The more the better. Just like the layers of the earth, it usually takes about 7 to get to the core of the conversation. At about question 4 their subconscious takes a mental note by thinking, “wow, this person actually cares.” It will go a long way in their connection with you.

4. Balance the give and take: No one wants to fee dominated in a conversation, nor do they want to feel like they are dominating. When you have a good balance of opinion you both walk away with a feeling of trust.

5. Be willing to disagree with a desire to understand: Don’t be fake but don’t be a dishrag either. If you don’t agree with them, it’s probably because you don’t fully understand their point of view (see #3). However, it is impossible to believe you will agree with everything they say, all the time. So make sure you are clear that you not agreeing doesn’t mean you don’t like them. Tell them that you appreciate their opinion and that they are willing to share it with you.

In a marriage, as a parent, in sales or just in meeting someone new, building relationships is vital. Learning to build one based on trust and mutual respect is achievable rather quickly if you are willing to follow these steps.

In every conversation over this next week try to include all of these steps and see how fast your relationships improve.

Emotional Currency


In honor of Valentines Day I thought I would share a video training I did for a private group on the gift of Emotional Currency. You might be spending time and money getting chocolates and flowers and all she wants is for you to sit and talk with her. Or you might be thinking all I have to do is have sex with him, when what he really wants is of you to tell him how awesome he is.

Emotional Currency goes one step beyond the Love Languages and shows you how your “currency” changes and what to do about it.

Man to man guide to customizing your Valentines day gifts…and scoring big time!

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You heart is pounding harder everyday it gets closer. You wake up in the morning with the stunning realization that it’s getting closer and you have yet to get your special lady anything. You are not 100% sure if when she said, “Hey, don’t worry about it this year” she actually meant it.

Knowing your co-workers are  going to be asking you what you are planning on doing for her, your impulse is to lie, because you haven’t done anything yet, or to exaggerate so you come off looking like Romeo amongst your peers.

The cards, the candy, the restaurant, the flowers, the sitter, the sex (and the aftermath if it doesn’t go right) can amount to a lot of pressure. Sometimes you think your chances of survival might be better if you were on a soldier on D-day rather than standing at a her doorstep, or walking in your home, with a card and flowers you hurriedly picked out at the local supermarket on V-Day.

Will your relationship survive yet another let down? Is there an easier or alternative to the “normal” way people celebrate Valentines?

Don’t stress! You can survive Valentines day. In fact, you can knock her socks off just by tweaking a few of the things you are conditioned by society to do. The main request I hear from women is that they want you to communicate more- show her how you feel about her.

Demonstrate to her that you care about her enough to do more than just buying something off the shelf. The key is to customize your efforts! Here are a few quick and easy alternative Valentines day ideas on how you can make this and any day you choose, one that shows them appreciation and love.

1- Instead of buying a card, write them a letter. Even if it’s just a simple note that tells them how much they mean to you. You can include things like your memories of the first time you met, your first kiss or the first time you knew they were the one for you.

2- Instead of buying candy, make or bring home their favorite desert. If you are not a good baker, get something made by a local baker that means more than just a heart shaped box that anyone can by.

3- Instead of flowers, make a mixed tape. It’s fun and with itunes its really easy. Of course you can pick songs like, ” Every Rose Has it’s Thorns”, “Kiss from a Rose” and “The Rose”, but you might want to stay away from “You Don’t Bring Me Flowers Anymore”.

4- Instead of going out to a crowed restaurant, bring home dinner-  Have a candle light dinner together, just the two of you. If you want to make it a family affair, enlist your kids to be your waiter  and dining staff. They will not only love it, they will learn a great lesson from you. If you want it to become a romantic night, send the kids to grandparents, a babysitter’s home, or splurge to send them to a movie with friends.

5- Instead of buying a gift like a ring or a necklace, give the gift of touch- draw her a bath or set up a massage table  and give her the gift of relaxing. (Ladies, you can also draw a bath for him and set up a massage table, I’m not discriminating here). Set up candles and soft music. Let them be 100% focused on themselves for a while. I know it’s Valentines, but make this all about them, with no agenda of your own other than letting them enjoy it.

Valentines day is a day of remembering and celebrating. Even if you are not into it, or think it’s too commercialized, or feel like its too much pressure, simple gestures from your heart can show her how much you care without the hoopla.

Hopefully you can take some of these substitute suggestions and use them throughout the year, not just on this one day in February.

What other customizations can you make to Valentines traditions so that you create a unique, romantic and special night for your lady?

Share them with us below.

Happy marriages are not secrets: Success always leaves clues!

I don’t know what it is about lists, but we seem to love them. Top 10 this, Best 21 of that. We like to have something to check off. I think it makes us feel like even if we can only get a few things checked off, we are on the right track. One of the most popular segments of our training is when we give our list of the 13 Traits of Happy Couples. I’ll share that one tomorrow. For now. Here is a list from Yahoo and Redbook that gives us some insight into the Secrets of Happy Couples. Do you agree or disagree with them? If so, which ones?

They look lovingly at each other across rooms, finish their partners’ sentences, and playfully poke fun at one another. Here’s how those blissful twosomes keep the romance alive. REDBOOK.

1. They celebrate a unique anniversary
Your wedding anniversary is a lovely date to remember, but it’s not the only milestone that matters. It’s even more intimate to celebrate less public moments of which only you two know the true meaning, such as your first kiss, first vacation together or – hey – even the first time the pregnancy test turned blue.

2. They stash pleasure money
Sure, you have funds earmarked for bills and savings, but every couple also needs a just-for-fun account to fund the occasional, much-need indulgence, says Brown University psychiatry professor Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men. “Put some money aside that won’t destroy your budget when you use it,” he says. Spend it on a spur-of-the-moment weekend trip, a pricey bottle of champagne or front-row tickets to a concert you’re dying to see.

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