Feeling safe is one of the key needs in our lives. From work to home to running errands, we shouldn’t have to feel uneasy about anything we do or like we could be in harm’s way. This is especially true when it comes to our lives inside the bedroom. The satisfaction we derive from our sex lives hinges upon our ability to relax and be comfortable and when we feel unsafe, whether it be physically, mentally or emotionally, we’re not likely to enjoy it. Use some of these tips to make sure you’re safe in every way.
We can’t always change where we live or even control the outside world, but we can definitely safeguard ourselves against it. Make sure you’re able to relax during sex by taking the time to protect yourself by locking the doors and windows and even investing in a security system.
If you find that you’re distracted and are afraid your kids might walk in during sex, be sure to lock your own door. Consider investing in a deadbolt and be sure to play music while you the two of you get busy. Music will help muffle any sounds that kids might find curious.
Feeling emotionally unsafe can be entirely different from physically unsafe. Emotionally unsafe has everything to do with you and your partner. Are they moody, verbally abusive, make you feel bad about yourself, controlling or overbearing? All of these qualities can make you feel very unsafe and therefore not enjoy sex in the slightest.
No one should have to endure any form of abuse, so if you feel like your partner is abusive towards you, whether it be physically or emotionally, consider talking to someone or getting help. If you feel like your emotionally safety is a little easier to manage, simply start talking to your partner. Communication is your best defense. If you don’t like the way have been treating you or talking to you, say something. Speak up and let them know that you are uncomfortable, whether it’s inside or outside of the bedroom.
Mentally and emotionally safe are very similar to each other, but mentally safe would have more to do with your limits inside the bedroom. You don’t ever want to feel like you’re being pressured to do something or like you’re not in control–unless you’re practicing a BDSM lifestyle–a form of sexual expression that relies on control, dominance and limits–but that’ another story for another time. You’re not likely to enjoy sex if you’re not in control, so once again talk to your partner about what you do and don’t like. Be confident about your feelings and set hard lines if you have to.
And finally, if you feel as if your partner is unable to make you feel safe and allow you to enjoy sex, don’t be afraid to take it on yourself. A happy and satisfying sex life is an important facet in your life, so be sure to get yours. If you need a little assistance, Adam and Eve can always get you there. You can even find Adam and Eve coupons info here and if you truly feel like your partner isn’t invested in your safety, please, please consider talking to a marriage counselor or therapist.