I was watching a video yesterday where a man was talking about how his previous religious beliefs made them feel guilty for wanting to watch porn and how oppressive the idea or not watching porn or masturbating was on him. Then he said something that made me realize how uneducated he was on the issue. He said, “As a matter of fact, the only time i didn’t feel guilty was when I was watching porn.”

I actually laughed out loud when he said this in a manner that sounded like he had truly found the answer to his guilt. The more porn, the less guilty! Wow! What a find!

What he obviously does not get is that is the way the brain is actually set up. The natural chemicals that occur in the brain when watching porn are the same as they are when having sex with a real live person.

When you are in the throws of making love to your wife, you probably don’t feel guilty either. It’s because of the chemical Dopamine that is released in the brain when starting the sexual activity. It’s effect is to make the brain narrowly focus on what is happening right then. It “throw’s caution to the wind” per say and  all thoughts of beliefs, good desires or goals are blocked out and ignored. It is directly compaired to cocaine.

There are four main chemicals that are released in the sex act, all of them are natural to the body and must exist for you to live. The last of them being Seritonin, which is considered a “Natural Prozac” because it helps you be calm, relaxed and allows you to feel a sence of peace…for a time being.

This man just does not get what is actually happening in the brain when he looks at porn. In my CD the 11 Lies of Pornography, I explain, among other things just how many people, women included, are feeding into the belief that there is nothing wrong with porn and that is does not effect their marriage at all.

If you are struggling with a porn addiction, there is help. It’s not easy, but it is definitely worth it. In the next post I will help you understand the 5 stages of addiction.