According to the Institute of Professional Psychology 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce.
Surprising to many, yet a fact is that more and more women are becoming addicted to the trap that is pornography.
I have seen various statistics but this one is the most common number I see out there.
17% of all women struggle with porn addiction * 1 of 3 visitors to all adult websites are women * 9.4 million women access adult websites every month -Internet Filter Review
Shocking? Yep! You need to know how to battle this poison in your life and the lives of other friends and family members.
A friend of mine just told me how his in-laws 30 year marriage is now coming to an end because of pornography!
I highly recommend the site www.candeocan.com if you or someone you know has an issue that needs to be addressed.
According to Robert E. Emery, Marriage in Divorce and Children’s Adjustment: Sage Publications, 1988 Compared to children from homes disrupted by death, children from divorced homes have more psychological problems.
The DEATH of a parent is LESS devastating to a child than a DIVORCE.
In my opinion, This is so based on a few various factors.
First of all, in general, people believe in some sort of after-life and can take comfort in knowing their deceased parent is in a better place and that there is the possibility to see them again.
Second and a major factor here, in most cases, the parent did not choose to leave them through death. It was beyond their control.
Although devastating, our logical brian can usually come to the understanding that the death of a parent was not a choice or decision made for them but a natural occurrence.
(The following is not to include marriages dealing with Abuse, Addicts or Adultery)
In divorce a choice is made by one or both parents to stop loving the other. In some cases making the other person an enemy to them. Now the child has to mentally reconcile in his/her head “love” can be conditional. Not to mention the idea of a promise, commitment and vows are flexible based upon emotions at any given time.
Like in the death of a parent, the child is now forced to live with a decision he/she did not want or make FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIFE, Unlike death, divorce was actually the cause of a decision made for them by the two people they love and depend on most in the world. Now having to witness the death of the marriage and their security, mentally and emotionally, every day for the rest of their life.
This may be hard to hear, I know of many children of divorce who would have rather gone through a death of one of their parents, than live through the divorce again.
A study of children six years after a parental marriage breakup revealed that even after all that time, these children tended to be “lonely, unhappy, anxious and insecure. (Wallerstein “The Long-Term Effects of Divorce on Children” Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 1991)
Only 20% of couples that participate in counseling report any improvement.
Many counselors report a maximum of 50% success rate with their clients not continuing with the divorce process after they have received their services.
-Relationship Coaching Institute
According to a Rutgers University study for the National Marriage Project if you come from a intact home as opposed to one that experienced a divorce, your chances of divorcing are actually 14% LESS than the national divorce average of about 48%.