In a game of professional football, it is very interesting to see what happens when a player simply moves the ball down the field a few yards. I’m not talking about scoring a touchdown. It’s it expected they would celebrate that. I’m speaking of when they are at the 40 yard line an move it to the 30 yard line. They will usually celebrate like it had never been done before in the history of the game. Other players will come over and smack the ball runner or catcher on the helmet or on the back in celebration. And all this celebration is done because…HE DID HIS JOB! Isn’t that the whole reason he is getting paid millions of dollars? If you were to look at it practically, that’s what he has done; his job! Seriously, does the mailman jump up and down in celebration when he sorts all the mail in a neighborhood correctly? Does the accountant jump up on his desk and pump his chest in egotistical celebration when the numbers all add up correctly? Yet the player and his team mates celebrate like crazy. Why? Because they understand the importance of celebrating the little wins as well as the big wins.
It is so important to celebrate each other’s success. Why? Because success begets success! If you get in the habit of celebrating even the little things, both of you will feel a deeper love for one another knowing you are supported and made to feel successful. That feeling of success will bleed over into your feeling of each other and your relationship. It will guarantee a feeling of respect from you and them.
To get what you really want, you must say “No” to what you don’t
want. Simple, but not easy.
I’ve settled for less than I really wanted many times in my life,
and each time my awareness of just how much of myself I gave
up to accept that “OK” job, buy that “OK” car, enter that “OK”
relationship that was less than I really wanted came much later,
when it was too late to do much about it.
Looking back with 20/20 hindsight, what could I have done
differently? Honestly, probably nothing. I had lessons I needed
to learn, a journey I was destined to take that led me to find the
love of my life and the life that I love.
What did I learn from making all those choices that seemed
right at the time? Here’s a few things-
* Every choice has long-term consequences that are
predictable if you’re paying attention
* If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is
* I listen to my fears and doubts way too much
* My choices and results are a direct reflection of how
worthy I feel and how well I’m taking care of myself
* When I defend against what others say about me,
they’re always right and I’m always wrong (damn!)
* Life doesn’t work the way you want, need or expect,
it works the way it works
Is it possible to catch myself settling before it’s too late?
Yes, I just have to listen to the garbage I tell myself; such as-
* I don’t want to be alone
* I REALLY want a relationship
* I’m tired of looking, I might as well choose this one
* I won’t find anything/anyone better
* I’d rather have this now than risk nothing later
* I don’t deserve true happiness
* 80% is good enough
Examining these statements now it’s easy to see they’re all FALSE.
Looking back, I knew I was telling myself these things, but my
awareness was dim enough, and my self-esteem low enough that
I allowed them to dictate my choices.
What could I have done differently? Simple. Require 100% and
not settle for less.
All the times I talked myself into accepting 80% prevented me from
finding and experiencing 100%. This hit home for me when I broke
up an 80% relationship and then met the woman I was destined to
marry just a few months later. It’s like I finally passed a cosmic
test of some kind.
Five years after writing the book Conscious Dating: Finding the Love
of Your Life in Today’s World and two years after finally finding my
soul mate, the biggest secret to finding true love that I’ve learned
is to love myself enough to fiercely go after 100% of what I really
want and truly believe that it’s possible.
Fiercely believe “I deserve to love and be loved.”
Fiercely believe “Seek and ye shall find.”
Fiercely believe “Build it, and they will come.”
And, fiercely believe “I’d rather be single than settle!”
David Steele, MA, LMFT is the founder of Relationship Coaching Institute
and author of the ground-breaking book for singles Conscious Dating:
Finding the Love of Your Life in Today’s World, now in it’s second edition.
Kim Duncan of http://3keyelements.com explains why a session with Dino Watt helped her see what she could not see and how one session made a “huge difference” in her marriage.
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